I was disturbed this morning by a story I read on the AP newswire about the increased rate of suicide due to the financial turmoil America is suffering right now: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20081014/ap_on_re_us/financial_crisis_violence
Here's a few excerps from the above story:
"An out-of-work money manager in California loses a fortune and wipes out his family in a murder-suicide. A 90-year-old Ohio widow shoots herself in the chest as authorities arrive to evict her from the modest house she called home for 38 years. "
"In Massachusetts, a housewife who had hidden her family's mounting financial crisis from her husband sends a note to the mortgage company warning: "By the time you foreclose on my house, I'll be dead."
"Then Carlene Balderrama shot herself to death, leaving an insurance policy and a suicide note on a table."
There's something to be said for believing in the underdog, especially when the underdog happens to be you.
I've been in some dark places in my life. I think everyone has been at one point or another. It goes without saying that anything worthwhile in life comes with a certain amount of risk - otherwise it wouldn't be worthwhile. It's when the chips are down that you have to take a step back and just breathe. When you are sitting with a large stack of chips and in the blink of eye it's gone, the idea of being objective seems ridiculous. But this is exactly when you have to find the strength within to center yourself.
When I've been at the bottom I always start by asking myself "what if the worst happens?" Typically it's visions of my home being taken away and me owing more money than I care to think about - even bankruptcy. This is when it dawns on me that even the "worst" possible scenario is not going to kill me. Not to get all philosophical here, but the things that really matter become more apparent at times like this. Because of this, I am thankful for the adversity. Yes, I said it....thankful.
The next thing I think about is the fact that I live in America and I'm capable of doing anything. If everything is stripped away from me today, you better believe I'll be back tomorrow shooting for something even bigger. The knowing that anything is possible keeps me going. Anything.
It's when people take themselves and life too seriously that you end up with headlines that those of today. What would life's pleasures and great triumphs be if there were only great triumphs and pleasure? Hey, I don't like going through difficulty any more than the next person - but the universe tends to have a little give and take to it, so what am I going to do?
Pretend life is a monopoly board. If you were playing and you were down to one little house on a board full of competitors' hotels and cash, would you quit? No way - you'd play it out and see what comes of the next roll of the dice. It's those times when you go from having that one little house, about to be eliminated, to somehow pulling out a win that everyone talks about for years to come. It's the underdog story America is built on. We love it, and we should.
There's tons of examples in sports when spectators leave the stadium with heads held low, only to turn on the radio in their car and listen to some miraculous comeback victory. Now everyone is screaming "we should have stayed!". That is life under a microscope. You NEVER give up on yourself or the reality that tomorrow could be YOUR day. It's the underdog story.
Here's one for you: In 2006, the Michigan Spartans faced off agains the Northwestern Wildcats in a football game that featured the biggest comeback in NCAA history. The Michigan State Spartans, after falling behind to the Wildcats 38-3 with 9:54 remaining in the 3rd quarter, rallied to score 38 unanswered points to defeat the Wildcats 41-38. If this was your life in sports, would you have walked out wth 10:00 remaining in the 3rd? If you did - look what you would miss!!!
I'm not going to point you to a bunch of links to kids in Africa or paralysis victims, or parents with sick kids, or any of that. There's plenty of stories out there and if you want to find more, simply google it. The point is that no matter how hard you think you have it, somebody out there will gladly trade places with you. It is so sad to see anyone, especially in America of all places, give up on themselves and the underdog story that lies just beneath the tremendous fear, anxiety and depression of a challenging moment.
For anyone facing challenges that seem insurmountable right now - take the time to sit back and reflect on all you have that truly means something. Then visualize yourself on that monopoly board or in that game with 10:00 left in the 3rd - down 38-3. Yes, this is a challenge (note I didn't use problem....a problem is anything noted in the previous paragraph) - but what an awesome opportunity to create an underdog story of your own, that you can pass on to generations that follow so they too will have reason to believe in America and our favorite past time: cheering on the underdogs.
Steve G.